Cleaning -- Green and Thrifty

As far as the environmental war goes, I'm somewhere in the middle (think of me as Switzerland).  I'm not in a panic over global warming (or even convinced there IS global warming...  I can hear the anguished cries already), nor do I feel it right to be wasteful or polluting of the resources God has given us.  Raising a large family has meant putting thriftiness into action.  I've done this is countless ways over the years.  

I got this book a couple of years ago as a freebie with something else.  I didn't find it preachy at all, but a great resource for having a cleaner and healthier home and family.  When Ken lost his job earlier this year, expenses were cut to the bare minimum.  As any mom knows, you can spend a good deal of money on cleaning products for your home!  I immediately pulled this off the shelf.  It's got great tips for cleaning in general.  


What I like about it the most is that in the case of home care, green = cheaper.  Who doesn't like that?  If cheaper doesn't excite you, think about less toxic.  I have been using several of her formulas for a while with great results.  Then recently, I decided maybe our floors needed "real" cleaner.  So I got some.  I forgot how much regular cleaning products irritate me.  Literally.  Coughing.  Choking.  Unpleasant fumes up my nose.  How good can that be?  Have you read the warning labels on some of the commercial stuff?  If you have anyone at home with asthma, allergies, sensitive skin, etc....  give green a try.


Here's a list of inexpensive and readily available products that will be a great help.  

liquid soap...  I like Dr. Bronner's liquid Castile soap.  You can buy it at a local health food store, and some grocery stores carry it as well.  It even comes in some various scented varieties...   scented with essential oils, not perfumes.  

baking soda...  SO many uses.  Make a little paste with this and liquid soap and it's a great cleanser.

washing soda...  hadn't heard of this before.  It's more caustic than baking soda, and makes a good abrasive cleaner and laundry booster.

white vinegar...  it's a mild acid so it disinfects and is great on glass.






oxygen bleach... I haven't used this much but it's a great alternative to chlorine bleach and  
more environmentally friendly.  Find one without all the added colors and stuff though.

essential oils... I keep these on hand for soap making and medicinal purposes, and some make great disinfectants while others can make your cleaners small lovely without harsh perfumes.


I'll share a few "recipes" for cleaners that I've adapted from Green Up Your Clean Up.  


All purpose spray


16 oz hot water
1 Tbs borax powder
1/4 tsp liquid Castile soap


I use a lavendar Castile, so it's automatically scented.  Put this in a spray bottle and you're good to go. The borax adds some disinfecting properties.  I use this in kitchens and bathrooms.  


Large job cleaner


For washing floors, cars, or other large areas you can mix this in a 1 gallon bucket


1 Tbs baking soda
2 Tbs Castile or detergent
hot water


You can add 1 Tbs of washing soda for heavy grease, or 1 Tbs borax to disinfect.


Glass Cleaner


1 cup each water and white vinegar.  I like to add 1/2 tsp of Castile.  You can also add 3-10 drops of essential oils to help with the vinegar smell.  Peppermint and lavender work well.  


Tea tree and lavender oils have antifungal, antiviral, and antibacterial properties, so adding some to plain water and spraying on shower and bath surfaces is great and smells SO much better than regular bathroom cleaners.  


Buying that floor cleaner reminded me that this isn't just about saving money.  I find I've lost my tolerance for expensive and/or harsh cleaners.  These make me happier, and my house is just as clean.  

Winter Break Fun

Taylor, my public school Freshman has been complaining how boring it'll be now that he's stuck at home for two week on winter break.  Gee, thanks son, I enjoy your company too.  I know I don't want them all in front of the tv or computer all day.  I was so glad to see that at least for day one of Christmas break, they all found ways to entertain themselves that mom was happy with too.  

Caitlin and Alyssa love to model and photograph for each other.  They took advantage of the beautiful white snow and uncharacteristically non-existent winds to vamp it up.  SUCH gorgeous girls! 

Makes a mama proud!  






Meanwhile, Chloe and Natalie wanted to build a snowman.  Natalie doesn't have much experience.  Enough snow for building doesn't happen often here.  So, I asked Taylor and Mike to help them build a snowman while I was gone.  An hour later, this is what I came home to.

Meet Carl, the double faced snowman.  You know, so he's facing you from the house, or the street.  

Carl's a big boy.  It took a ladder to hoist his top up.  He measures exactly 8ft. 

Oh Carl.....   you're so welcoming and friendly.

He's our new friend.  And, based on his bulk, I'd say Carl will be with us well into May.  Or at least remnants.  

The Element

I've found another person to be inspired by.  My daughter introduced me to him and his ideas on education through a You Tube video (I love it when my kids start teaching me!).  Sir Ken Robinson, PhD has some thought provoking ideas on education.  I already believed most of this, but I usually hear this kind of thing from homeschool proponents.  His ideas on education are directed towards public education, but anyone involved in education can benefit.  He's so brilliant I don't know why I hadn't heard of him before!


Take 10 minutes to watch this and see if you don't find yourself shaking your head in agreement.  A lot. The talents of the RSA Animate makes it fun!  Then check below for a book review.

Awesome, right?  I think instinctively, most of us know this, but the "system" is what we've been raised on.  I searched around and found that he's written a book called The Element, How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything.  It's not your typical, "follow your bliss" type of book.  It's an amazing combination of personal development and education, two of my favorite subjects!   It's at once a guide for finding your passions and best self, and a scathing review of  our educational system.   Color me happy!

He discusses his educational philosophies and how he thinks schools should start over, not just "reform".  He discusses the importance of learning in a holistic way, where all the senses, modalities, and "intelligences" are engaged.  We  know that schools cater mostly to the linguistic and mathematical styles of learning, which leaves so many children feeling lost and sees many reach adulthood without ever having discovered that which they most love and excel at.  


Robinson gives  many real life examples of people's paths to happiness and success by finding and following their passions.  He also shows the difficulties and obstacles that often stand in our way to doing so, specifically in the school systems and societal expectations that so many of us grew up with.   As I shared in an earlier post, I'm struggling to find my passion; that Element where I belong.  Rather than answers, it's given me more to ponder.  In some cases, your Element and what you do to make a living aren't the same thing.  You may do what's necessary to survive financially, and immerse yourself in those interests and passions outside of work hours.  I'm stubborn though  (not a surprise to some of you).  I insist there must be a way for those things to meet in my life; passion and income.  If only my passions were accounting, or grocery store clerk, or receptionist, you know?  Life would be so simple then.  


I've realized too, that I may be doing better than the public school system in helping my children discover their true gifts, but I'm failing in many ways too.  As a product of that broken system, I  of don't often  think far enough outside of the educational box.  I  struggle to maintain enough of a schedule and routine so that I can  manage a household of nine and all the grunt work that comes with it and keep my sanity (ok....   keep what's left of it), and still allow the flexibility my children need to indulge their interests and gifts to their fullest extent.  With the number of kids, their age differences, and interest differences,  I struggle to feel I can meet all their needs in that way.  I've got a lot to think about over the holiday break!  Watch it, read it, and tell me what you think!

Opening Night!

We're halfway through our production week, and it's opening night!  So much excitement for the dancers and the parents.  We'll all just think positive thoughts and not panic over the presence of stomach flu that began.  On stage.  Last night.  Chant with me, "Everyone is well today, everyone is well today." 


The principle guest dancers flew in from New York last night.  It's always a treat to see them perform.  It brings such a beauty and professionalism to the production.  


But here's the real treat....   right here.  

Natalie, my little battle rat and Alyssa the Bon Bon!  Serious cuteness going on.

Alyssa looks so grown up and lovely!  Only a few years ago she was a baby faced little Palace Angel.  Makes me want to cry.  

Okay, THIS is just....  well.....   look at them.  They're partners in the Spanish Hot Chocolate dance.  So cute together it makes you want to die right there.  And that's all I have to say for now.  I need a tissue.

Nutcracker Day 3

This afternoon will be only the 3rd day of Nutcracker Production week (5 to go!).  I had ambitious thoughts of doing a photo journal of the whole thing. No photos are allowed in many of the backstage areas, and I'm too busy backstage volunteering to do it anyways.  


This is Alyssa's 6th Nutcracker, and Natalie's 2nd, so in some ways it's old routine; but there's new dancers, new costumes, new problems, new fun, new memories.  I'm spending my time volunteering as Security Chair and Greenroom mother.  Here are some random Nutcracker thoughts after only 2 days.


1.  I kept dreaming last night that young Greenroom dancers kept running away to the mall and we couldn't find them. 


2.  I woke up yesterday with the Waltz of the Flowers music running loudly through my head....  and I  hadn't even heard them on stage yet. 


3.  The careless non-involvement of some parents never ceases to amaze me.  It's FUN people!  And you're needed.


4.  No matter how many times I see it, it makes me cry....   even the scenes my daughters aren't in (especially the snow seen...  breathtaking!)


5.  Note to self:  get a travel sewing kit for Nutcracker week.  Would've been nice to have yesterday when leotards misbehaved.


6.  I love seeing the bonds of friendship my girls have made.


7.  I love the bonds of friendship I've made.


8.  I'm really tired.


9.  I can't WAIT to see the performance (dress rehearsals are closed to viewing).


10.  I'm really tired (did I already say that?)


11.  Trying to sew a leotard strap under a jacket, and under another leotard can result in silly things....  like 2 leotards being sewn looped together (she didn't appreciate my unique artistry).

Gifts Galore

Christmas is my favorite holiday, is it one of yours too? I love the music, the tree, the baking, and  I love giving!  I love making other people happy with something I can give them.  Sometimes though, all that giving can either stretch the budget beyond repair, or become a little too focused on "stuff".  For both reasons, I've gotten into the habit of making at least some of my gifts.  It's more personal, they're usually unique, and people appreciate that YOU went into the gift and not just some cash.  


I want my kids to appreciate heart felt gifts, and not only the price tag.  I want them to know that they can give wonderful gifts without emptying the bank.


Are you done with your shopping already?  If you are I'm SO jealous.  I try every year to get done before December 1st, and I made a better effort this year.  Not.  Quite.  Done. (shoot).   I'm going to give a short list of ideas for gifts, and include plenty of websites so you can explore and find some great giving options.


1. grandparents love photos....   in frames, scrapbooked, mini albums to carry


2. homemade gifts baskets... ie, if you have a movie lover you can give some DVDs or gift certificate to a local theater along with some homemade treats to enjoy while watching, and some microwave popcorn


3. coupon books for free chores, dates, lessons for something you're good at and they want to learn, special services like back rubs, etc.


4.  little kids love dress up...   buy a box and fill it with dress up clothes and accessories (jewelry, hats, scarves) from Goodwill.  It's a hit every time.


5.  burn a CD mix of someone's favorite type of music




Gifts from the Kitchen

Everyone loves a gift that warms their belly!  These are some great ideas to start with.

Do it Yourself Christmas

An assortment of reader contributed gift ideas, some of which are pretty unique.  If you have a tween, the Secret Hollow book is awesome!


Family Fun's crafty ideas

A lot of good ideas, especially for smaller gifts that could be used for exchanges or stockings.

Homemade Gift Ideas for the Family

This site would be good for kids making gifts for other people.  A lot of very fun and simple things to try.


Martha Stewart's Gift Ideas

Ok, it's Martha...  love her or hate her, she's got some brilliant ideas.  Some of these are a little more pricey or may require a bit more skill than I can get my hands on, but it's well worth a look.


Great Ideas for All Ages

This site lists ideas by age.  Have a 1-3 year old?  She's got a whole list of inexpensive but well targeted things to give.  It's where I decided what to give Chloe this year.  She's also got ideas for Mom and Dad, so kids can get involved making things too.  

Hopefully this has you thinking of some awesome gifts to make and give this year.  If you have a favorite idea, let me know!  We start "birthday season" in our house right after Christmas, so I'm always up for a great gift giving idea!

Decisions, Decisions

What do you want to be when you grow up?  Have you decided yet?  I'm 43 years old and still trying to figure it out. I envy those of you who know.  I'm totally content to be a full time wife and mother, don't get me wrong.  Totally.  I LOVE being with my kids and teaching them and helping them grow to be amazing people.  I enjoy domestic life.  I like cooking.  I like making things from scratch.  I like finding thrifty alternatives for needs and wants.  


I'm not a creative person in the sense of invention or making something unique. I wouldn't call myself a "crafty" person.   I usually have to be inspired by someone else with more genius than me to begin.   But I've found that creating is necessary for me.  Cooking is a creative endeavor for me. I like the pairing of ingredients, the properties and complexities of different spices and flavors. I  enjoy "creating" that feeling or atmosphere when I'm playing, or listening to amazing music.  I do have some creative hobbies too, like bath and body products, because I was fascinated that not just some big chemical company can do that, and in fact I can do it better in many ways because it's just me.  Photography is a new way for me to express and create feelings and images.


I'd probably be content to just appease my creativity through hobbies; except that economics being what they are, and the cost of hobbies being what they are, and the cost of feeding 5 teens/young adults being what THAT is, and the cost of life in general being what it is.......   well, I need to get creative in deciding what to be and what to do that could help my family even just a little.  


I've learned a lot from a business I've had for the past year.  It launched me into my study of personal development and human potential over the last year which has been eye opening and I hope transforming sooner rather than later.  I think I'm a different person in many ways because of my experience.  I've had to get so far out of my comfort zone I thought I'd die; but I didn't.  It's been totally worth it.  And now I think I'm at a crossroads.  I know the integrity and potential my business has. But before real success comes, I'm going to have to become yet more.  I'm at a point in my life where I feel I've spent so much time being and doing what OTHER people want and need me to do, and I truly hate disappointing anyone.   I know that part of being a wife, mother, church and community member means giving of oneself, and it's ok because I've received a lot in return.  It's just that life's too short to keep putting off doing what you love and what makes you happy.  Isn't it?  


I guess the BIG question I've been struggling with is: 


Do I push myself to do something that's not entirely me, because it's a smart and promising opportunity that's full of potential, knowing I can make myself into anything I want if I want it badly enough (and that it will require growing, stretching, and getting out of my comfort zones.......yet more)?  OR, do I choose what I'd love and would make me happy even though it's not at all certain to become anything of consequence (when I really NEED something of consequence and not just more hobby time).  Is ignoring the "smart" choice and doing what you love too idealistic and irresponsible?  Doesn't it all require stretching, growth, and some risk?


If you've hung in this long, you deserve a gold star!  This is a shortened version of my thought processes, because the entire one would leave your head spinning as it does mine (only I'm used to it so I don't get nauseous anymore).  I envy people who just know what they want, and go after it without doubt and hesitation.  It must be so liberating.  I ask too many questions, raise too many doubts, and cast too many shadows.  


My hope is that voicing this all "out loud" will bring some clarity of mind so the right choice becomes crystal clear.  If you have any wisdom (or even just random opinions) to share, please, just shout it out!

Spicy Asian Peanut Sauce

Spicy Asian Peanut Sauce is to die for.   I love flavors that are a little bit sweet and a little bit spicy, and complex.  I really love Asian food in general, and this is such a simple and versatile sauce I wanted to share it.  

all photos courtesy of Alyssa

Here's what you'll need.  You'll have to excuse the JUMBO sized containers, they lack that aesthetic beauty, but  it's how we roll around here!  So you need honey, peanut butter (smooth or crunchy), vinegar, oil, chili oil, soy sauce, garlic, and water.  I love recipes that are adaptable, and this one is.  You can use sugar instead of honey, cider or seasoned rice vinegar instead of plain, chili paste instead of oil, and sesame oil in place of half the cooking oil.  The amount of chili oil or paste is completely variable, but do add some.  For my kids, about 1/3 of what's called for works great.  

I was going to take pictures of the process, but it's so easy it's boring to look at.  You just combine all the ingredients, in any order you like, into a small sauce pan (or a big one if you want to double the recipe).  

Here's the crunchy peanut butter being added.  

You want to heat it (stove top or microwave), just til the peanut butter and other ingredients melt together and combine. 

It should have just the right amount of thickness to cling to whatever you add it to, not as thick as gravy.




Remember I said how versatile this is?  It's great on noodles.  Soba noodles, spaghetti noodles, bean thread noodles, almost any kind of noodles.  And on  vegetables like broccoli, or snow peas, or carrots....   it's good on chicken or fish, including shrimp.  Wonderful on rice too.  


We most often use it as a side dish and just put this over spaghetti noodles when serving chicken or fish...  especially if the main dish has a bit of an Asian flavor to  it already.  I like to use leftovers for a healthy lunch.  Take rice or noodles, any combination of stir fried veggies, and you have a quick and light lunch.  My kids think it's ok.  I LOVE it.  Oh, and I've tried buying bottled peanut sauce thinking it'd save me some time.....   so NOT the same.  I don't know what they do, but it's not nearly as good.  


Spicy Asian Peanut Sauce


4-6 cloves of minced garlic
3 T oil
3 T water
3 T soy sauce
1 T hot chili oil
1 T honey
2 T vinegar
1/4 c peanut butter

Monopoly Anyone?

I bet some of you just love board games.  I feel like I should....  doesn't every good mom want to play endless hours of board games with her kids?  We played some growing up, but let's just say our family didn't always play....  well.....   functionally. So I'm not a fan.  Even though I feel guilty about it. 


Because of this guilt, I do from time to time get sucked into playing.  Last night Alyssa asked me to play Monopoly.  The mother of all board games.  You're looking at a 3 hour minimum time investment.   Do you know what I could with 3 hours?  (read a good book, make a gourmet meal, sleep, plant a garden, rearrange my closet...... )

This is what I got when I said I didn't want to play.  Ok, how do you say no to that?

Soooooo.....   he we are.  Setting up and getting ready to play Monopoly America Special Edition.   It's going to be a long night.  We started at 6:30pm.

Taylor got in the game too.  He was the top hat.  Alyssa wanted the space shuttle.  And I picked the pie...   because everything else was weird (like movie reels) and I could relate to pie.  Oh, and by the time we got the board set up and the money counted out, it was already like 7:30.  

Taylor was the banker.  This picture is out of focus, because he didn't want his picture taken and after 10 attempts, this was the best shot.  And the top hat really isn't the best piece for him....   but what piece do you choose to illustrate how cutthroat you are in Monopoly?  Hhmmm...... maybe they need a new piece.   An icicle maybe?  How about a scrolled up eviction notice?  All I can say is,  the boy is cold.

Oh fake Monopoly money....   how I wish you were real.

Oh, and right before we started, Dad jumped in the game too.  

Early in the game, Alyssa accused Taylor of cheating and left the game in a 12 year old girl emotional melodrama.  Natalie quickly took her place much to the annoyance of others who insisted she can't play on her own.

We've got hotels and some serious real estate happening here...   and Natalie learned that she CAN count out money on her own!

Now, one thing I so dislike about board games, is that as a mom you are constantly interrupted because one child or another needs you.  In the few minutes it took me to get the 3 year old a snack, something sinister went down.  When I came back to the game, Mafia Pete here and his Dad had formed an unholy alliance.  They agreed to merge all their holdings (and they had most of them already), and give each other amnesty (AKA free rent) until they took Natalie and me out.  Then they'd dissolve and go after each other.  Wow....   that's all I can say.   Such cruelty from your spouse and a child you gave birth to (without drugs, who weighed over 10 lbs).....   I'm just sayin'.

They just sat there and waited for the inevitable bankruptcy.  It didn't take long.  Which is actually not a bad thing.  Because my bankruptcy, which came shortly after Natalie's, ended the 3 HOUR LONG GAME.    Next time could we just play chutes and ladders?  Or, here's an idea!  Play without me.

Happy Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving morning, about 7am.  Woke up with a smashing headache, and thought I'd blog a little while everyone sleeps, and before turkey prep begins.  I wanted to list a few more things that I'm thankful for, although I could never, EVER list them all.  


1.  Purple.....   how can you look at purple and not feel a little happier?


2.  Snow (not snowy roads), because it makes my kids SO happy


3.  The kindness of people...   we've had a rough year and been on the receiving end of help and support more than I'd like (because I love giving, not receiving).  But so awesome, and so thankful to have had it.


4.  Cheesecake.  In high school, my best friend brought an entire cheesecake and can of blueberry filling to school....   and 4 of us shared and ate THE WHOLE THING.  And yet, I still love cheesecake.  


5.  Making re-connections with friends and family on Facebook


6. All the things I've learned this year about myself;  my abilities, the power of having vision and thinking positively, and experiencing the truth that action conquers fear.


7.  Newly waxed hardwood floors.  Oooohhhh......  shiny!


8.  Christmas music.  I'd listen to it all year if I could, because it's message of hope, salvation, and joy is one I need all year long.


9.  Technology.  It can be a pain at times...  because I don't always know how to use it or how to fix it.  But having my mom and Chloe get to see each other from across the miles when Chloe blew out her birthday candles.....   priceless!


10.  Lipstick....   I love lipstick.  I usually forget to wear it.  But I love the perfect shade of lipstick and how it helps me feel a little more polished and together.  


Now, it took for forever to find this.  I've seen it ascribed to President Lincoln as his Thanksgiving Day address.  But it's not.  It was a few months later when he proclaimed a National day of fasting and prayer.  It's still a marvelous speech on gratitude and God ,  and worth reading and pondering this Thanksgiving.  Enjoy your day and your many blessings!

SNOW!!

You see this?  It's on my front porch, because it's autumn.  Now I've lived in places where autumn (or even late summer) means snow.  But not generally here.  We're in a desert.  We have pretty mild winters for the most part. We hardly get any precipitation at all.  Less than two weeks ago we were heading out the door without jackets.  

And then this happened.  Not just the dusting we usually get.  (ok, you Utah and Idaho people can stop laughing at my "very much snow" picture...  but really, this is a lot for us... we were overwhelmed with snowiness).

Giada likes it.  It makes our dogs frisky.  They can't get enough of romping through it.  

The girls can't get enough of romping through it either!  

Chloe and I have been reading "The Snowy Day" by Ezra Jack Keats.  The first thing she wanted to do was make an angel.  A snow angel made by an angel. 

The snow was a little dry for a good snowball fight, but they tried.

Silly girls...

Michael's traditional "I'll be crazy and pretend it's summer for the first snow" pose.  He's just flat crazy.  

The best way to end playtime in the snow...   a warm cookie in front of a warm heater.

Changes

Ok, so I get bored easily.  If I could rearrange my furniture monthly...  I probably would.  Sadly, my house doesn't really accommodate many workable configurations....   so I'll have to be content redesigning my blog every so often (or really often).  There are just too many colors and too many designs to stick with just one for very long!